記住這8句話 你的相親之路暢通無阻（雙語）

　　想讓你的相親之路暢通無阻嗎?牢牢記住下面這8句話吧!

　　1. Conversations matter more than chiseled features.

　　1. 與欺騙人的特征相比，對(duì)話更重要。

　　Dating in Los Angeles provides a fair share of “slashers" (actor/model, musician/actor, actor/waiter), and plenty of people who are still relying on their good looks from high school to replace substantive conversations. It quickly became clear that I much preferred going out with an intelligent, clever guy than a hot one. I’ll take the brains over the body, any day.

　　洛杉磯的約會(huì)能提供不少的“配對(duì)項(xiàng)”(演員配模特、音樂家配演員、演員配招待員)，還有很多人仍(在相親時(shí))仰賴他們高中時(shí)期的好相貌，而無視意義重大的對(duì)話。很快我便明白了，比起身材好的男生，我更喜歡跟頭腦好的聰明男生約會(huì)。不管是哪一天，我都更看重對(duì)方的頭腦而非身材外貌。

　　2. Being a woman with a great job is polarizing.

　　2. 擁有一份好工作的女性正在極化。

　　But it weeds out the bad guys who are intimidated by your success and attracts the good ones.

　　不過這也排除了被你事業(yè)成功嚇呆了的不良對(duì)象，并吸引來優(yōu)質(zhì)男。

　　3. It's OK to walk away from something and not apologize for it.

　　3. 你并不用為自己逃避問題而道歉。

　　I went out with plenty of men who seemed nervous or shy online thinking that maybe they were really great guys that I'd click with in person. But when we met, I was usually bored to tears. Feeling obligedto give them a shot anyway didn't do either of us any favors.

　　我同許多在網(wǎng)上看上去緊張或害羞的男性出去約會(huì)過，我想也許他們真的是不錯(cuò)的男性。我應(yīng)該親自去見見面。然而當(dāng)我們碰上面，我總會(huì)無聊到眼淚都要流出來了。覺得無論如何都應(yīng)該給他們一次機(jī)會(huì)這種想法，對(duì)我們雙方都沒多大幫助。

　　4. There’s no such thing as becoming just friends.

　　4. 與相親對(duì)象只做朋友，絕無可能。

　　After going on a date where zero romantic attraction manifested, but the guy was seemingly interesting or cool, friends often said, “Well maybe you guys can be friends!” Nope. That never happened -- and that's fine! Got plenty of friends.

　　赴約后，兩人之間沒有擦出任何戀愛火花，而對(duì)方看上去又屬于有趣或酷酷的類型時(shí)，朋友們便老是說：“恩，也許你們能成為朋友!”不要。這絕不會(huì)發(fā)生。(而且也不需要!我有這么多朋友。)

　　5. Talking about yourself is exhausting.

　　5. 談?wù)撟约汉苜M(fèi)神。

　　I much prefer to ask questions and listen. Explaining your own career trajectory over and over again feels more like an interview than it does a fun night out on the town.

　　我更喜歡問對(duì)方問題并傾聽。一次又一次地解釋你自己的職業(yè)道路更像一場(chǎng)面試，比不上城里的一次歡快夜游。

　　6. I got a new motto: life before love.

　　6. 我有了一句新格言：先享受人生再去愛。

　　If you aren't out there going on adventures, traveling, learning new things and reading new books, you won't have much to talk to your date about. Always choose the experience. It will make you far more interesting.

　　如果你沒有出門冒險(xiǎn)、旅游、學(xué)習(xí)新事物、讀新書，你便不會(huì)有多少話題與約會(huì)對(duì)象談?wù)摗？偸沁x擇去體驗(yàn)吧，它將讓你更有趣。

　　7. Reading between the lines is important.

　　7. 讀懂話外音很重要。

　　I quickly learned that lines like “I just want to meet someone I can have fun with” and “everyone takes this dating thing so seriously,” really mean “I just want to have sex.” If that's what you're looking for, then great! If not, move along.

　　當(dāng)對(duì)方對(duì)我說“我只想見能一起愉快玩耍的人”或是“每個(gè)人對(duì)待約會(huì)都這么嚴(yán)肅”這樣的話時(shí)，我很快就明白他們的真實(shí)意思是“我就想和你上床。”如果這是你在尋求的，那么太棒了!如果不是，那便轉(zhuǎn)身離開吧。

　　8. I have a really strong stomach.

　　8. 我承受力真的很強(qiáng)。

　　I'm not talking 7-minute abs. Trusting your gut is one of the greatest superpowers that human womenpossess. When someone wrote something slightly off-color over text, it was usually just the tip of the iceberg. Seven-minute gut checks became the theme of online dating, and learning that my intuition was usually right was one of the best assurances I’ve ever had.

　　我并不是在說七分鐘練出腹肌。相信直覺是人類女性所擁有的最偉大超能力之一。當(dāng)某些人寫的內(nèi)容稍微有點(diǎn)黃段子的意味時(shí)，這往往只是冰山一角。“七分鐘直覺確認(rèn)”成為了網(wǎng)絡(luò)約會(huì)的一大主題，而我也知道了自己的第六感總沒錯(cuò)，這一點(diǎn)是我目前最確定的事情之一。